Did You Marry the One? Finding the Right Person vs. Commitment in a Christ-Centered

Did You Marry the One?

Do you ever wonder if you married the right person? Maybe you have doubts about whether your spouse is truly the one God intended for you. Perhaps you’ve heard people talk about finding “the one,” and you’re not sure if you did.

It’s a common concern. We all want to make the right choices in life, especially when it comes to something as important as marriage. But is this idea of the “right” person biblical? And if so, how do we know if we’ve found them?

The Problem with the “Right” Person

Many people believe that there is one specific person out there who is the perfect match for them. They call this person “the one,” and they believe that if they can just find this person, everything in their lives will fall into place.

But is that really what the Bible teaches? Does God have one perfect person planned for each of us to marry?

The truth is that the Bible doesn’t teach that there is only one person out there who is right for us. Instead, it teaches that we should marry someone who is committed to following Jesus and who will help us grow in our faith.

In 1 Corinthians 7:39, Paul says that a widow is free to marry “whomever she wishes, only in the Lord.” This means that as long as the person we marry is a believer and committed to following Jesus, we are free to marry them.

Of course, this doesn’t mean that we should just marry anyone who claims to be a Christian. We should still look for someone who shares our values and goals, and who we are compatible with. But we don’t need to worry that we might have missed out on “the one.”

When we focus too much on finding the “right” person, we can miss out on the blessings that come from a committed, Christ-centered marriage. We may become overly critical of our spouse, always wondering if there’s someone better out there. Or we may feel like we’ve settled for less than what we deserve, even if our spouse is a wonderful person who loves us deeply.

Instead of worrying about whether we’ve found the “one,” we should focus on becoming the kind of person who can be a good spouse. We should work on growing in our faith, developing our character, and learning how to love sacrificially. As we do these things, we will become better equipped to love and serve our spouse, no matter who they are.

The Importance of Commitment

While finding the “right” person may not be as important as we think, there is one thing that is essential for a successful marriage: commitment.

When we make a lifelong commitment to our spouse, we are saying that we will love and serve them no matter what. We are committing to work through the challenges that will inevitably come our way, and to put our spouse’s needs ahead of our own.

Commitment is what makes marriage so powerful. It’s what allows us to become one flesh with our spouse, as God intended (Genesis 2:24). And it’s what enables us to reflect the relationship between Christ and his church (Ephesians 5:22-33).

But commitment isn’t always easy. There will be times when we don’t feel like loving our spouse, or when we are tempted to give up on our marriage. In those moments, we need to remember the covenant we made with our spouse and with God. We need to ask for his help to love our spouse sacrificially, even when it’s hard.

How to Know if You’ve Found the Right Person

So, if finding the “right” person isn’t the most important thing, how do we know if we’ve found someone we should marry?

First, we should look for someone who is committed to following Jesus. This means someone who is actively seeking to grow in their faith and who is willing to submit their life to God’s will. If we marry someone who doesn’t share our faith, we will be unequally yoked (2 Corinthians 6:14) and will likely face challenges in our marriage.

Second, we should look for someone who is compatible with us. This doesn’t mean that we need to have all the same interests or personality traits, but it does mean that we should share common values and goals. We should be able to work together as a team and support each other in our individual pursuits.

Third, we should seek wise counsel from others. Proverbs 15:22 says, “Without counsel plans fail, but with many advisers they succeed.” We should seek the advice of godly mentors, parents, and friends who can help us discern whether we are making a wise choice in marriage.

Finally, we should pray for guidance. James 1:5 says, “If any of you lacks wisdom, let him ask God, who gives generously to all without reproach, and it will be given him.” God cares about our marriages and wants us to make wise choices. If we ask him for guidance, he will give it to us.

The Beauty of a Christ-Centered Marriage

When we marry someone who is committed to following Jesus, who is compatible with us, and who has the support of wise counsel, we can be confident that we are making a wise choice. But even more important than finding the “right” person is committing to make our marriage Christ-centered.

When we put Jesus at the center of our marriage, we invite him to work in and through us to make our marriage strong and healthy. We become partners in his mission to bring glory to God and to love others sacrificially.

As we grow in our love for Jesus, we will also grow in our love for our spouse. We will learn to forgive each other as Christ has forgiven us, to serve each other as Christ has served us, and to love each other as Christ has loved us.

So, did you marry the “right” person? The answer is yes, if you married someone who is committed to following Jesus and if you are both committed to making your marriage Christ-centered. As you continue to seek God’s guidance and grow in your love for him and for your spouse, you can be confident that you are exactly where God wants you to be.

References

• 1 Corinthians 7:39


• Genesis 2:24


• Ephesians 5:22-33


• 2 Corinthians 6:14


• Proverbs 15:22


• James 1:5